Overcoming Selfishness
Ren requires subduing selfish impulses in favor of care for others.
Confucius defined ren as 'overcoming the self and returning to ritual.' This means subduing selfish desires and impulses to follow the patterns of behavior that promote social harmony and wellbeing.
To subdue oneself and return to ritual is ren.
Self-overcoming is the path to achieving ren.
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